During our work on volkszaehler.org we got in contact with international standards. Here collected some resources which could be helpful when implementing protocols etc.
Most of the standards are maintained by one of the two smart metering commitees: DLMS UA and OMS Group
Open Metering System Group
Communication systems for meters and remote reading of meters
Device Language Message Specification User Association (originally Distribution Line Message Specification)
The series of DIN EN 62056 standards superseeds IEC 61107 and is used in Europe.